Let it out Eppo....
I agree with the concept of moderation and consideration, and I do my part. But I also agree to staying true to yourself, and fuelling your passions, feeding the soul.
On a slightly different angle though, if i may add: women surfing and kiting makes them instantly sexy. [}:)]
Well written and extremely accurate Eppo ,most women lack inner joy which the male partner is responsible for ,according to her.They hate the male having fun in whatever form and it is on her agenda to chop away all those forms the longer the marriage goes on until he becomes a zombie.Most men aren't real men in a marriage ,he has to bite his tongue and walk on eggshells especially in social encounters such as family,friends BBQs where he speaks his mind in general conversation which his not allowed to do.
Kiting cost me a SUP in marriage dollars. When it's windy she comes watches me at the ocean, when it's crap I watch her on the flat.. Seems to work ok. I'm more worried about work getting suss that I piss off early for a kite every other day.
Hey Dave ,no self pity here,or zombie ,i've spoken my mind all my life disregarding politically correctness.....I wish guys would say what they think about their partner to them instead of me.e.g she's a bla bla ,then when she arrives 5mins later...he says Hey honey
Time for a shameless re-post....
The Wind Clause
I the undersigned have read, understood and agreed to the following:
I will let kiter___________ (insert your name here) out of any previous plans we may have made if there is a chance the wind might come up. I will never ask him to reconsider our previous plans, OR give him ****e for breaking off said plans to go kiting
I will let said kiter ride as often as the wind blows and not make any plans for him/us if the wind forecast shows it's gonna blow for days
I will let said kiter out of making dinner or cleaning the dishes if he needs to clean his gear, re-rig, or untangle lines.
I will pick up said kiter at any downwind location at any time if he has it in his heart to do a down winder. I will rearrange my schedule to fit the optimal wind window for his down winder
I WILL NEVER tell him he can't spend money on new kite gear, equip, or related paraphernalia, even if the money comes out of our joint acct.
I WILL NEVER complain if he's too tired after a day of kiting and he hasn't the energy to engage in coital tenderness. I will eagerly await when he is ready to participate or simply do all the hard work for him.
I will NEVER COMPLAIN that he spends too much time on the water and not enough with me
I WILL LOVE MY KITER FOR BEING A KITER and never ask him to change
I ________________ (insert girls name here) have read and understood the above statements and agree to comply fully with the terms of this binding agreement.
Yeh sorry fellas just blowing off steam. 8 days doing irrelevant stuff like going to the fudge factory, is starting to take its toll. Lol.
But I still stand by what I said.
It's kids that screw things up. The things you love the most cause the most problems it seems.
What I want to know is where is the women I married!! It's like some deeply embedded program kicks in once they have reached their ultimate biological purpose!
Oops starting again...lol.
Agree with the above, got to do what you got to do without being selfish, or obviously selfish
I dunno Eppo, I feel for ya, but normally you seem to get out more than a lot of the single people here, as well as having much more gear
Hate to skite.......... but
My wife takes the bus everyday to work so I can kite (even if no wind forecast), and still wants to hear all about it while she cooks me dinner haha
Has even been known to make a special trip the the beach to bring me a pie and a coffee so I don't run out of energy.
Must suck to have a sucky wife, I'd better make sure I pass on my appreciation to mine (by giving her a solid rutting).
The approach needed depends on the situation....
Conversation from a few years ago....
Me (to wife): Well, I'm not sure what to do today, either an afternoon of hot, no holds barred sex, or kiting?
Wife: Don't forget your sunblock
Me: <silently punch the air in my head and off I go>
fast forward a few years (post divorce(for other reasons))
At lunch by beach with girlfriend (when the wind picks up)...
Girlfriend: Yes, I know the wind is building. I've got no knickers on, are you with me or kiting?
Me: Well, would it be considered rude if we had sex and then I went kiting?
Girlfriend: Of course not, I thought that was the idea!
Me: <silently punch the air in my head and off I go>
Hey Eppo............. you can teach your kids to sail...... start with swimming, buy a wee yacht, Kite, ...... wish Id had a dad to teach me that stuff..... and then you can play sailing scrabble....... there are lots of 4 letter sailing words..... and all get on the same wave......
Im new to seabreeze and just getting in to kiteboarding. Ive been with my missus for 7 years so fall in to the "develop passion after meeting the wife" class.
Whilst she can be a ball breaker, everyone can be, she is completely encouraging me to get in to sport. "As long as you use it, go nuts and buy the gear".
Also in relation to the previous poster who said "kids change everything". My missus doesnt want to have kids, im the one who is more keen, and her reason is "If we dont have kids we can be rich and selfish for the rest of our lives and go on holidays and trips around the world" :)
That being said she also wants to feel important in my life and that I take her in to consideration when making these choices. Its all about finding the right woman, the one with common interests and goals in life.
So my point is, my missus rocks and I cant wait to get on the water, but also take in to consideration the one you love (your wife not kiteboarding).
...says BusBitch, one sand-whipping day on the beach, "why doesn't someone invent a beach shelter with pump-up struts? then i could learn how to help pump up your kite"...
there are wives, and there are mates
Got a mate who is incredibly good at balancing home and adventure... Far out he does the hard yards at home and deservedly gets a leave pass to kite or surf here and there... My hat goes off to him!!
I on the other hand, have a very understanding partner who knows that without adventure, her man goes freakin spare and just isnt a nice person.. I have to admit ownership of that fact.. I'm a jerk, unless I get to channel my energy into kiting or surfing or something of the like.. My hat goes off to my girl for understanding and accepting that.. thanks babe x
Either way, there is always a balance... Just need to find the one you balance with