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Kitesurfing = Marital problems?

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Created by Mikedobee > 9 months ago, 3 Jan 2013
DutchRooster
NSW, 325 posts
3 Jan 2013 10:02PM
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Let it out Eppo....

I agree with the concept of moderation and consideration, and I do my part. But I also agree to staying true to yourself, and fuelling your passions, feeding the soul.

On a slightly different angle though, if i may add: women surfing and kiting makes them instantly sexy. [}:)]

towradgi
NSW, 424 posts
3 Jan 2013 10:04PM
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Well written and extremely accurate Eppo ,most women lack inner joy which the male partner is responsible for ,according to her.They hate the male having fun in whatever form and it is on her agenda to chop away all those forms the longer the marriage goes on until he becomes a zombie.Most men aren't real men in a marriage ,he has to bite his tongue and walk on eggshells especially in social encounters such as family,friends BBQs where he speaks his mind in general conversation which his not allowed to do.

RPM
WA, 1549 posts
3 Jan 2013 7:04PM
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eppo said...
Take my hat off to you girls who have found the lure of ocean and wind. Want to know what I think. Well here it is. This is generalising as the girls have shown women to can find and pursue such hobbies. But guess what girls? You are in the minority. Most women I know have no real hobbies or a passion to follow. Their kids (you girls have kids"), you and organising every possible bloody minute second becomes their hobby! They don't understand a single point of focus, their focus is all over their holistically wired brains, hormones and body parts. They would rather and here it is...they would rather you be at home doing absolutely farq all, playing some god forsaken women's weekly idealistic family script, than out kiting. So you take off a session. You sit there.

You ask what now? And she turns on the telly or organises some of her moronic friends and their even greater moronic husbands to come around and bore you within an inch of your farqin life. You smile and just resist the pimeval urge to smash every stupid teeth in his neanthderthal mouth as pure bullsh1t flows seamlessly out of his cok sucking mouth.

I'm currently on holidays for eight long torturous days with my partner the kids and guess who? Her parents. Oh farq she is in heaven, sitting around like some dead head scene from the partridge family.

Choose your mate you say. Wish it was so damn easy.

The only thing that counters all my rhetoric is my kids. Life would have an even greater tone of existentialism without them. They are my life. That's the only thing that keeps me from falling into the primitive biological patterns I grained in our genetics I talked about before.

But I do say man or women. Know your rights as an individual, stick to your guns, and if your partner wants to bitch and moan ( men also, a lot of men I know are castrated pansies and the number is growing), let them. Do what ya gotta do,

YOU ARE NOT THERETO MAKE THEM HAPPY!

THAT IS an individuals responsibility. Suck it up. Go kiting.


Oh ****, they are playing scrabble now. SOMEBODY KILL MEEEEEEEEEEEEEE


I now know why you spend 20 hours a week on kite forum and seabreeze.. Your time log is justified.

Dave Whettingsteel
WA, 1397 posts
3 Jan 2013 7:06PM
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eppo said...
Take my hat off to you girls who have found the lure of ocean and wind. Want to know what I think. Well here it is. This is generalising as the girls have shown women to can find and pursue such hobbies. But guess what girls? You are in the minority. Most women I know have no real hobbies or a passion to follow. Their kids (you girls have kids"), you and organising every possible bloody minute second becomes their hobby! They don't understand a single point of focus, their focus is all over their holistically wired brains, hormones and body parts. They would rather and here it is...they would rather you be at home doing absolutely farq all, playing some god forsaken women's weekly idealistic family script, than out kiting. So you take off a session. You sit there.

You ask what now? And she turns on the telly or organises some of her moronic friends and their even greater moronic husbands to come around and bore you within an inch of your farqin life. You smile and just resist the pimeval urge to smash every stupid teeth in his neanthderthal mouth as pure bullsh1t flows seamlessly out of his cok sucking mouth.

I'm currently on holidays for eight long torturous days with my partner the kids and guess who? Her parents. Oh farq she is in heaven, sitting around like some dead head scene from the partridge family.

Choose your mate you say. Wish it was so damn easy.

The only thing that counters all my rhetoric is my kids. Life would have an even greater tone of existentialism without them. They are my life. That's the only thing that keeps me from falling into the primitive biological patterns I grained in our genetics I talked about before.

But I do say man or women. Know your rights as an individual, stick to your guns, and if your partner wants to bitch and moan ( men also, a lot of men I know are castrated pansies and the number is growing), let them. Do what ya gotta do,

YOU ARE NOT THERETO MAKE THEM HAPPY!

THAT IS an individuals responsibility. Suck it up. Go kiting.


Oh ****, they are playing scrabble now. SOMEBODY KILL MEEEEEEEEEEEEEE


Well Eppo, I reckon you either consumed too much jungle juice, or need to get into it promptly.
Enjoy what you have got, not what you haven't. A kite bore is as boring as a scrabble bore.

Ahh, by theway, some nice wind and little waves yesterday and today up at horrocks ! Haha You should bring the family here next time.

And also, as a rant... That was pretty damm good Eppo! Reading it again cracked me up actually.

BoardGirl
QLD, 248 posts
3 Jan 2013 9:13PM
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towradgi said...
Well written and extremely accurate Eppo ,most women lack inner joy which the male partner is responsible for ,according to her.They hate the male having fun in whatever form and it is on her agenda to chop away all those forms the longer the marriage goes on until he becomes a zombie.Most men aren't real men in a marriage ,he has to bite his tongue and walk on eggshells especially in social encounters such as family,friends BBQs where he speaks his mind in general conversation which his not allowed to do.


Works both ways Towradgi....to make any relationship work... You as a person have to stay true to yourself and what makes you happy without being over the top selfish.

Dave Whettingsteel
WA, 1397 posts
3 Jan 2013 7:14PM
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towradgi said...
Well written and extremely accurate Eppo ,most women lack inner joy which the male partner is responsible for ,according to her.They hate the male having fun in whatever form and it is on her agenda to chop away all those forms the longer the marriage goes on until he becomes a zombie.Most men aren't real men in a marriage ,he has to bite his tongue and walk on eggshells especially in social encounters such as family,friends BBQs where he speaks his mind in general conversation which his not allowed to do.



Gee, that's a pathetic attitude! You make your own nest mate. That sounds like the sort of self pitying talk you would get in a Men's Shed ( not that I would go near one).

Maybe you need to drink more red wine. Haha

Dl33ta
TAS, 461 posts
3 Jan 2013 10:28PM
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Kiting cost me a SUP in marriage dollars. When it's windy she comes watches me at the ocean, when it's crap I watch her on the flat.. Seems to work ok. I'm more worried about work getting suss that I piss off early for a kite every other day.

towradgi
NSW, 424 posts
3 Jan 2013 10:42PM
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Hey Dave ,no self pity here,or zombie ,i've spoken my mind all my life disregarding politically correctness.....I wish guys would say what they think about their partner to them instead of me.e.g she's a bla bla ,then when she arrives 5mins later...he says Hey honey

Dave Whettingsteel
WA, 1397 posts
3 Jan 2013 7:56PM
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towradgi said...
Hey Dave ,no self pity here,or zombie ,i've spoken my mind all my life disregarding politically correctness.....I wish guys would say what they think about their partner to them instead of me.e.g she's a bla bla ,then when she arrives 5mins later...he says Hey honey

Sounds good towradgi, can't beat emotional honsesty, it's not a popularity contest.
What does your sb name mean?

towradgi
NSW, 424 posts
3 Jan 2013 11:14PM
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Towradgi is my home beach .Towradgi Beach Dave is my Perisher Ski leaderboard name.

waveslave
WA, 4263 posts
3 Jan 2013 8:31PM
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tinkerbells said...
why on earth would you pick a mate thats not into the same hobbies as you ?


Right-on, Tinkerbells. ^^^

Before you got married,

Before you got defacto-ed even,

When you just hung-out with your New Best Friend,

Did you enjoy the same stuff together ?

Did you like doing the same things ?

Of course you did.

Otherwise you would not have hung-out together, right ?

So why change the programme ?

A mate enjoys the company of their mate.



Skid
QLD, 1499 posts
3 Jan 2013 11:33PM
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Time for a shameless re-post....

The Wind Clause

I the undersigned have read, understood and agreed to the following:

I will let kiter___________ (insert your name here) out of any previous plans we may have made if there is a chance the wind might come up. I will never ask him to reconsider our previous plans, OR give him ****e for breaking off said plans to go kiting

I will let said kiter ride as often as the wind blows and not make any plans for him/us if the wind forecast shows it's gonna blow for days

I will let said kiter out of making dinner or cleaning the dishes if he needs to clean his gear, re-rig, or untangle lines.

I will pick up said kiter at any downwind location at any time if he has it in his heart to do a down winder. I will rearrange my schedule to fit the optimal wind window for his down winder

I WILL NEVER tell him he can't spend money on new kite gear, equip, or related paraphernalia, even if the money comes out of our joint acct.

I WILL NEVER complain if he's too tired after a day of kiting and he hasn't the energy to engage in coital tenderness. I will eagerly await when he is ready to participate or simply do all the hard work for him.

I will NEVER COMPLAIN that he spends too much time on the water and not enough with me


I WILL LOVE MY KITER FOR BEING A KITER and never ask him to change

I ________________ (insert girls name here) have read and understood the above statements and agree to comply fully with the terms of this binding agreement.

Mikedobee
NSW, 331 posts
4 Jan 2013 11:28AM
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Skid said...
Time for a shameless re-post....

The Wind Clause

I the undersigned have read, understood and agreed to the following:

I will let kiter___________ (insert your name here) out of any previous plans we may have made if there is a chance the wind might come up. I will never ask him to reconsider our previous plans, OR give him ****e for breaking off said plans to go kiting

I will let said kiter ride as often as the wind blows and not make any plans for him/us if the wind forecast shows it's gonna blow for days

I will let said kiter out of making dinner or cleaning the dishes if he needs to clean his gear, re-rig, or untangle lines.

I will pick up said kiter at any downwind location at any time if he has it in his heart to do a down winder. I will rearrange my schedule to fit the optimal wind window for his down winder

I WILL NEVER tell him he can't spend money on new kite gear, equip, or related paraphernalia, even if the money comes out of our joint acct.

I WILL NEVER complain if he's too tired after a day of kiting and he hasn't the energy to engage in coital tenderness. I will eagerly await when he is ready to participate or simply do all the hard work for him.

I will NEVER COMPLAIN that he spends too much time on the water and not enough with me


I WILL LOVE MY KITER FOR BEING A KITER and never ask him to change

I ________________ (insert girls name here) have read and understood the above statements and agree to comply fully with the terms of this binding agreement.


Epic. Print, please!

Mikedobee
NSW, 331 posts
4 Jan 2013 11:34AM
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RPM said...
kitegirl21 said...[
Old mate in the original post is obviously too self obsessed to care about anything else other than himself.




I [b]sharted
when he said he had a partner that wasn't another bloke.





That's a common side effect for overusing your sphincter.

eppo
WA, 9490 posts
4 Jan 2013 9:17AM
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Yeh sorry fellas just blowing off steam. 8 days doing irrelevant stuff like going to the fudge factory, is starting to take its toll. Lol.

But I still stand by what I said.

It's kids that screw things up. The things you love the most cause the most problems it seems.

What I want to know is where is the women I married!! It's like some deeply embedded program kicks in once they have reached their ultimate biological purpose!

Oops starting again...lol.

Agree with the above, got to do what you got to do without being selfish, or obviously selfish

surfingboye
NSW, 2707 posts
4 Jan 2013 12:56PM
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eppo said...
Yeh sorry fellas just blowing off steam. 8 days doing irrelevant stuff like going to the fudge factory, is starting to take its toll. Lol.

But I still stand by what I said.

It's kids that screw things up. The things you love the most cause the most problems it seems.

What I want to know is where is the women I married!! It's like some deeply embedded program kicks in once they have reached their ultimate biological purpose!

Oops starting again...lol.

Agree with the above, got to do what you got to do without being selfish, or obviously selfish


I hope Mrs Eppo doesn't know what Seabreeze is, or how to log on.
Good luck if she does...

oceanfire
WA, 718 posts
4 Jan 2013 9:59AM
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I dunno Eppo, I feel for ya, but normally you seem to get out more than a lot of the single people here, as well as having much more gear

eppo said...
Take my hat off to you girls who have found the lure of ocean and wind. Want to know what I think. Well here it is. This is generalising as the girls have shown women to can find and pursue such hobbies. But guess what girls? You are in the minority. Most women I know have no real hobbies or a passion to follow. Their kids (you girls have kids"), you and organising every possible bloody minute second becomes their hobby! They don't understand a single point of focus, their focus is all over their holistically wired brains, hormones and body parts. They would rather and here it is...they would rather you be at home doing absolutely farq all, playing some god forsaken women's weekly idealistic family script, than out kiting. So you take off a session. You sit there.

You're pretty spot on with this though.



A lot of people are stating the obvious here, in that if you're single, why would you hook up with someone who doesn't share or understand your passion.
Obvious.

The bigger problem a couple of others have mentioned, is discovering and developing the passion after you've already been married/hooked up for a while.

Some people just don't get it (the awesomeness of kiting), and it's pretty frustrating having discovered this awesome sport and not having the stoke shared or really understood by your partner.

You still love your partner and still enjoy time with them, but you have also discovered a new passion that can potentially rival the passion you have for your partner, so there will be jealousy as your kiting time takes away from already established 'partner time'.

So how to deal with this?
How to balance your two loves?

Chris_M
2129 posts
4 Jan 2013 11:34AM
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Hate to skite.......... but

My wife takes the bus everyday to work so I can kite (even if no wind forecast), and still wants to hear all about it while she cooks me dinner haha

Has even been known to make a special trip the the beach to bring me a pie and a coffee so I don't run out of energy.

Must suck to have a sucky wife, I'd better make sure I pass on my appreciation to mine (by giving her a solid rutting).

Skid
QLD, 1499 posts
4 Jan 2013 1:36PM
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The approach needed depends on the situation....

Conversation from a few years ago....

Me (to wife): Well, I'm not sure what to do today, either an afternoon of hot, no holds barred sex, or kiting?
Wife: Don't forget your sunblock
Me: <silently punch the air in my head and off I go>

fast forward a few years (post divorce(for other reasons))

At lunch by beach with girlfriend (when the wind picks up)...
Girlfriend: Yes, I know the wind is building. I've got no knickers on, are you with me or kiting?
Me: Well, would it be considered rude if we had sex and then I went kiting?
Girlfriend: Of course not, I thought that was the idea!
Me: <silently punch the air in my head and off I go>

bobajob
QLD, 1534 posts
4 Jan 2013 2:32PM
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Skid said...
The approach needed depends on the situation....



.....At lunch by beach with girlfriend (when the wind picks up)...
Girlfriend: Yes, I know the wind is building. I've got no knickers on, are you with me or kiting?
Me: Well, would it be considered rude if we had sex and then I went kiting?
Girlfriend: Of course not, I thought that was the idea!
Me: <silently punch the air in my head and off I go>




Gotta get me one of those - wonder if the wife will mind?

tinkerbells
WA, 5 posts
4 Jan 2013 12:43PM
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Hey Eppo............. you can teach your kids to sail...... start with swimming, buy a wee yacht, Kite, ...... wish Id had a dad to teach me that stuff..... and then you can play sailing scrabble....... there are lots of 4 letter sailing words..... and all get on the same wave......

Plummet
4862 posts
4 Jan 2013 12:49PM
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bobajob said...
Skid said...
The approach needed depends on the situation....



.....At lunch by beach with girlfriend (when the wind picks up)...
Girlfriend: Yes, I know the wind is building. I've got no knickers on, are you with me or kiting?
Me: Well, would it be considered rude if we had sex and then I went kiting?
Girlfriend: Of course not, I thought that was the idea!
Me: <silently punch the air in my head and off I go>




Gotta get me one of those - wonder if the wife will mind?


They don't stay that way for long. .... givem a few years and they'll turn into the fire breathing dragon the older blokes are talking about.

Though i have to admit i have heard of a select few that are not dragons... unfortunately mine is in the dragon category.

wishy
WA, 1501 posts
4 Jan 2013 1:10PM
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You will never have any of the problems mentioned if you live in WA.
There are no women here.

Sammyjay
VIC, 180 posts
4 Jan 2013 4:13PM
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Im new to seabreeze and just getting in to kiteboarding. Ive been with my missus for 7 years so fall in to the "develop passion after meeting the wife" class.

Whilst she can be a ball breaker, everyone can be, she is completely encouraging me to get in to sport. "As long as you use it, go nuts and buy the gear".

Also in relation to the previous poster who said "kids change everything". My missus doesnt want to have kids, im the one who is more keen, and her reason is "If we dont have kids we can be rich and selfish for the rest of our lives and go on holidays and trips around the world" :)

That being said she also wants to feel important in my life and that I take her in to consideration when making these choices. Its all about finding the right woman, the one with common interests and goals in life.

So my point is, my missus rocks and I cant wait to get on the water, but also take in to consideration the one you love (your wife not kiteboarding).

dogfish
NT, 253 posts
4 Jan 2013 5:02PM
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...says BusBitch, one sand-whipping day on the beach, "why doesn't someone invent a beach shelter with pump-up struts? then i could learn how to help pump up your kite"...

there are wives, and there are mates

Addikt
WA, 551 posts
4 Jan 2013 6:02PM
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cauncy said...
as you run into the bedroom to get it out of cupboard you notice the wife lying on the bed with your fave bit of lace on looking at you in a i want it now exspresssion what do you do, we all agreed kite


Does this actually happen !!!!!!

Dave Whettingsteel
WA, 1397 posts
4 Jan 2013 6:31PM
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dogfish said...
...says BusBitch, one sand-whipping day on the beach, "why doesn't someone invent a beach shelter with pump-up struts? then i could learn how to help pump up your kite"...

there are wives, and there are mates


Mate some uk kiting mates of mine including Tom Court have started this kite oriented tent/ shelter company. Check it out! Maybe someone should start importing them to Oz.mmmmmm


gybe-design.com/

EastCC
QLD, 354 posts
4 Jan 2013 8:43PM
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Dave Whettingsteel said...
dogfish said...
...says BusBitch, one sand-whipping day on the beach, "why doesn't someone invent a beach shelter with pump-up struts? then i could learn how to help pump up your kite"...

there are wives, and there are mates


Mate some uk kiting mates of mine including Tom Court have started this kite oriented tent/ shelter company. Check it out! Maybe someone should start importing them to Oz.mmmmmm


gybe-design.com/




Was interested till I saw the pricing

bumstein
WA, 108 posts
4 Jan 2013 10:04PM
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Got a mate who is incredibly good at balancing home and adventure... Far out he does the hard yards at home and deservedly gets a leave pass to kite or surf here and there... My hat goes off to him!!

I on the other hand, have a very understanding partner who knows that without adventure, her man goes freakin spare and just isnt a nice person.. I have to admit ownership of that fact.. I'm a jerk, unless I get to channel my energy into kiting or surfing or something of the like.. My hat goes off to my girl for understanding and accepting that.. thanks babe x

Either way, there is always a balance... Just need to find the one you balance with

bennie
ACT, 1258 posts
5 Jan 2013 9:19AM
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Plummet said...
bobajob said...
Skid said...
The approach needed depends on the situation....



.....At lunch by beach with girlfriend (when the wind picks up)...
Girlfriend: Yes, I know the wind is building. I've got no knickers on, are you with me or kiting?
Me: Well, would it be considered rude if we had sex and then I went kiting?
Girlfriend: Of course not, I thought that was the idea!
Me: <silently punch the air in my head and off I go>




Gotta get me one of those - wonder if the wife will mind?


They don't stay that way for long. .... givem a few years and they'll turn into the fire breathing dragon the older blokes are talking about.

Though i have to admit i have heard of a select few that are not dragons... unfortunately mine is in the dragon category.


this made me laugh



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